Complete the following questionnaire by giving scores from 1-5 at each statement
1 = rarely like me
2 = occasionally like me
3 = sometimes like me
4 = often like me
5 = always (or almost always) like me
I know the situations and/or people that are likely to make me angry ......
When I have completed a difficult action, I make sure to appreciate my work ....
When writing a message or email I consider how the person receiving it will feel .....
I always give credit publicly to those who help me ...
When things go wrong or I am disappointed in an outcome, I am still optimistic about better outcomes ...
When I get angry or frustrated I am able to discover the cause ...
When I get angry or frustrated I remain composed in my behaviors
I am able to recognize when people are nervous around me ....
I am open to the thoughts and suggestions of others even if they disagree with me ...
I view problems as challenges to resolve ...
I realize when my energy is low ...
I am clear about what actions I need to take after meeting with others ...
When I am in a small group situation I attempt to assess the mood of each person ....
When I am with someone who is upset/ angry/frustrated I adjust my behavior to work with them ....
When I receive bad news I give myself time to reflect, absorb and then move on ....
I am aware of the impact my communication has on others ....
17. I admit to my own mistakes....
18. I try to identify and understand the emotions and feelings of others ...
19. I am patient with others while teaching them something new ....
20. When I feel disappointed I am able to express disappointment in a healthy manner and move on .
21. I am aware of how my mood and communication might affect others around me ....
22. I observe others to model and learn new skills and behaviours that are beneficial to me ...
23. If someone shows frustration, anger, or irritation I try to understand what they are feeling instead of reacting ....
24. I welcome feedback from others ...
25. I am able to accept and adjust when major plans are changed ...
26. When I feel sad or negative I can identify the root cause ....
27. When i am in a bad mood I can still remain calm and patient with others ....
28. I put myself in the place of others in order to understand how they feel ....
29. I encourage others to provide me feedback even if they disagree with me ....
30 When I am upset I am still able to focus on my tasks and others ...
Transfer the scores from all 30 questions.
Score 6 -12: Room for improvement
Score 13 - 23: Good/effective
Score 24 - 30: Excellent/ Higly effective
Learning about others can help you gain more self-awareness (eg. attachment types, Enneagram, other personality tests)
Learn about the 4 attachment types link here
Download this Emotional Intelligence Worksheet
Book a life coaching session with me to become more self-aware link here
